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“I’m going to tell you something. Promise you won’t tell anyone?”

In 1984, George Orwell said, “If you want to keep a secret, you must also hide it from yourself.”  That is exactly what people do.  We hide secrets by making them unconscious.  We make them unconscious by piling thought after thought on top of the secret.

One of the biggest reasons people keep secrets is fear of judgment. If no one knows our embarrassing or even dastardly deeds they cannot judge us. They will not know we have broken the rules therefore there is only one way to please everyone, and that is to keep secrets about the rules we break.  That way people think we followed their rules and don’t judge us.

We are not born with a sense of right and wrong; it is a man-made invention.  We borrow it from adults and authority figures in our life.  We don’t realize as children that right and wrong is subjective.  We don’t realize that judges are often wrong.  Right and wrong separates us, and as innocent children we cannot understand separation.  We have to learn it.  Sadly, people go out of their way to teach it to us.

We fear judgment so much, that we allow it to take our power, our authenticity, and our freedom.  But we can let our self judgment go; and then we can recognize that the judgment of others came from their beliefs, their opinions, and their self-serving rules.

Within the word belief is the word lie. Are beliefs the lies we tell ourselves? Do we uphold them because they make us feel comfortable or worthy? There is after all a big difference between judgment and discernment. If our discernment is functioning well do we even anything remotely like judgment?

In truth, when man projected his judgment on others and started making others the keepers of his fate, he took a long, hard fall.  But when we turn our eye inward, and we start to discern our thoughts, the actions all start to make sense.  We see the intention that drove us to do what we do.  We find our inner goodness.  We slowly return to innocence and curiosity.  We are still obedient, but not to others with stupid beliefs and rules and judgments; we obey our heart.  That realization puts us back on the path to oneness, where separate doesn’t exist.  Secrets become unnecessary.