How To Destroy Your Relationship In A Few Easy Steps

Submitted by Lux on Tue, 2016-07-26 17:24

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Ok now you may wonder why I am pointing out ways to destroy your relationship when most of the time I share things about making your relationships better. However, it would seem that so many people seem to actually plant the seeds of destruction in their relationships and then wonder why they don’t work out. So, this is like a “what not to do” list in which you may want to reflect on, to see if any of these relate to your situation. Of course, if you actually do want to destroy your relationship, then this list will help you to see that you’re right on target.

Don’t learn any good communication skills. Poor communication between couples has shown to be the number one reason why relationships fall apart. Not being able to truly connect causes a feeling of inner loneliness and disconnection, leading to dissatisfaction in the relationship. One of the best ways to make someone feel under-valued, is to constantly interrupt them when they are speaking about something important to them. This will make them feel unimportant to you, and disconnected. They will come away with the belief “He/She doesn’t care what I have to share.” If you consistently show disrespect in ways like this, your relationship is doomed, so use this frequently if you want to destroy your relationship. Also, don’t truly listen to them. Aside from interrupting when they are trying to share what’s on their heart, you may also want to tune them out when they say something you just don’t want to hear, even if they have a darn good point! Don’t listen with your heart. This will most definitely make them feel frustrated and have them wondering if it is even worth it to continue.
When you have the opportunity to make things right, apologize for wrong-doing or hurting your partner, DON’T DO IT. Instead, let your pride and ego rule you. Be hard-hearted and uncaring. This will let the other person know that what bothers them doesn’t matter to you at all, and that you won’t validate their pain, nor will you assist in bringing the love and healing into this situation.
If your partner expresses love to you in many ways, DON’T RECIPROCATE. This will make sure that the love only flows in one direction. Again, close down your heart and don’t give back any affection. Unreturned love is one of life’s most painful experiences, and this way, if you hold back, you will cause the most pain possible, thus causing the destruction of your relationship.
Dismiss and devalue the other person’s ideas and desires as much as you can. In fact, tell them often that they are wrong, (whether they are or not), because that will make them feel like you don’t value them as a person. It is sure to destroy any love in the relationship. Instead of having a loving and kind heart, growing and learning together, instead act arrogant and haughty as if you are a god of some sort, knowing everything.
Be disrespectful. No one with any self respect wants to be in a relationship where they are disrespected. If you are consistently disrespectful, coupled with no apology when you’ve hurt the other person (see above), this is a sure-fire way to destroy the relationship.
Judge and destructively criticize them as much as possible. Make as many assumptions based on your limited understanding, as possible. This will serve to alienate you from knowing who your partner really is, which will eventually break down the relationship. It will help you to build blockades of judgment, instead of bridges of love, between you. This seed manifests often as hostility and defensiveness often. While constructive criticism is helpful, destructive criticism is not. If you didn’t realize the difference between the two, maybe it is something you want to come to see for yourself. Now if you really want to turbo-charge the destruction of your relationship, make sure you assail a lot of destructive criticism on them.
Don’t compliment your partner or notice anything good they do. This will definitely not only starve out any love left in your partner but it will also make them feel unappreciated.
Don’t connect with them in a spiritually intimate way. Don’t have any spiritual bond that will sustain you in rough time nor bring you into higher light together.
Let others, like family and friends, come in between you. Don’t put you and your partner together as a team in your mind. Instead, see them as separate from you. Then when someone tries to put seeds of enmity and discord between you and your partner, it will work like a charm because since you don’t consult with your partner first about things, but you instead consult with your friends. What you are doing here is putting them in a higher position than your partner. This will ensure that your partner doesn’t feel as though they are number one in your heart and priorities. This is such an excellent way to destroy a relationship and many have learned this the hard way.
And the one that will really put a nail in the coffin of your relationship, BLAME THEM FOR YOUR ACTIONS! Don’t take any personal responsibility for your own actions and how you helped destroy the relationship with your own negligence and lack of nurturing. And then don’t learn from your mistakes, that way you can go and do this over again with a new person. And when that relationship fails too, since you didn’t learn from your own mistakes, then you can go ahead, wallow in self-pity, have a few drinks and lament to others how there’s “no good women (or men) out there” as if you are some kind of helpless victim.