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There are millions of superficial and shallow people wandering around this world of ours.
How can you assure yourself about the warniong bell going off in your head that they are not worth your time?
When you meet a superficial person for the first time, you likely sense it. A feeling in your soul from the first moment you interact with them. It is challenging to put into words what it is about them that make them seem so superficial or fake, but you get the sense that they are as soon as they begin to speak.
It is important that you listen to your instincts when attempting to judge if someone is superficial… but you might also want to consider some other factors as well before writing someone off completely.
Also, remember that it is possible that you are a superficial person yourself, and you’re basically projecting your worst flaws onto another. Until you can completely rule this out, you might want to give it some special consideration.
After all, we all should be striving towards improving ourselves.
Before you get too far down the path of judging another person for being superficial and not worthy of your time, you must ask yourself how you come off to them.
Before we are to evaluate the heart and personality of another person, we must first look inward and see where we stand.
Taking even a few moments for mindfulness in our day can pay off huge dividends when we start to see how some of the actions and words that we use in our daily life impacts others. If we are not mindful of our own shortcomings, then it is hard to point the finger at others and say that they must be mindful of theirs.
When evaluating a person, we should always try to remember that there is often more than meets the eye. We only see the parts of themselves that they want to show us, and we are not always privy to parts of their world that they may decide to keep under wraps at the moment.
SIGNS:
1. A Lack of Conviction
It is simply not possible to have an opinion about every single topic in the world, but it is troubling when someone doesn't seem to have an opinion about literally anything at all happening in the world.
When that is the case, we may begin to wonder if we are dealing with a superficial person. A lack of conviction on virtually any topic means that the individual is simply going with the winds of change as they feel them moving through the air. They may appear to just be trying to agree with whatever the audience around them wants to hear… but what it can really mean is that they are facing a problem with being a superficial person.
They lack the ability to be decisive on any issue, and they, therefore, have a superficial nature about them.
2. Their Relationships Are Self-Centered
Have you ever been around a person who only seems to care about what they get out of a relationship?
It doesn't have to necessarily be a romantic relationship that we are talking about here (though it can be), but any relationship that seems to have a very self-centered and self-interested party can be the sign of a superficial person.
When that is the case, we may begin to wonder if we are dealing with a superficial person. A lack of conviction on virtually any topic means that the individual is simply going with the winds of change as they feel them moving through the air. They may appear to just be trying to agree with whatever the audience around them wants to hear… but what it can really mean is that they are facing a problem with being a superficial person.
They lack the ability to be decisive on any issue, and they, therefore, have a superficial nature about them.
2. Their Relationships Are Self-Centered
Have you ever been around a person who only seems to care about what they get out of a relationship?
It doesn't have to necessarily be a romantic relationship that we are talking about here (though it can be), but any relationship that seems to have a very self-centered and self-interested party can be the sign of a superficial person.
They will put in the bare minimum effort to keep the other person from drifting away, but they are constantly going to be taking from the relationship all that they can possibly get. When this is the case, it often leads to the other party feeling very hurt and unhappy, and it is a good sign that this relationship needs to be terminated.
3. Backstabbing Comes Natural to Them
“Greed is good” are the famous words from fictional Wall Street tycoon Gordon Gekko in the movie “Wall Street”. He was the type of character who had no problem at all backstabbing others if it meant that he could climb just a little higher on the wealth ladder.
He was certainly a superficial character, but there are people just like him in real life. They don't mind taking cheap shots at other people if they feel that it will advance their own position in some way. It is scary to be around people like this for very long because they tend to be so self-consumed and so willing to throw people under the bus that you never know if you might be next on their list.
4. They Are Judgmental By Nature
Being overly critical of others is a sign that the person you are speaking with may be rather superficial.
While they project flaws on others, they may not be addressing the elephant in the room that is their own flaws. They are gleeful at picking apart other people, but they don't stop to access their own failings.
This means that they are superficial and care only about knocking other people down rather than trying to understand those same people and how they operate. If they were to stop and think about things like this, perhaps they would be less likely to jump on someone's case for some minor flaw here or there.
5. Gossip Is Second-Nature to Them
A little light gossip here and there never hurt anyone, but engaging in gossip all the time is a sign of a superficial person.
Why do they spend so much of their time and energy thinking about other people? Why is it so important to them that the world knows all of the dirty laundry of another person?
Could it be that they are afraid of having some of their own dirty laundry aired out to dry for the rest of the world to see?
That is a leading theory that goes a long way to explaining why some people just can't seem to get enough of the gossip train. They should be focused on other concerns, but they just can't break themselves away from talking about others and how those people are supposed less deserving of the care and attention that they so readily demand.
6. They Demand the Spotlight
Human beings want the attention to be focused on themselves at certain points in time no matter what, but it is worrying if you notice that someone you care about demands that they always be the center of attention at all times.
Why is it that they get away with turning that spotlight on themselves all the time, and why must they always be the center of attention? It is likely because they are superficial.
The fact that they insist on people always talking about or thinking about them is something that should be a warning sign to everyone else that they are dealing with someone who is very superficial.
7. They Frequently Turn Down Invitations
Some people are naturally home bodies and don't like to get out much at all. It doesn't mean they are superficial.
That said, you should be on the lookout for people who absolutely never want to leave their homes no matter what kind of event they are invited to.
Why would they be so unwilling to ever get out of their bubble and interact with other people?
Those who are very superficial might find it difficult to be around other people because there is a good chance that they might get called out on some of their less than desirable attributes. They want to avoid being around those who are willing to say what other people are thinking.
8. They Are Into Sabotaging Your Success
There is nothing natural or normal about someone you care about getting in your way and trying to sabotage your success. It is a troubling thing to hear that there are some people who have no problem at all standing in the way of the progress and success of others.
Sadly, we know that this happens, and you might have wondered why this was the case.
It could be that they are trying to tear you down before you can do the same to them. You may not have any desire whatsoever to tear this person down, but they can sometimes get it in their head that you will make an attempt to take a swipe at them. If they feel threatened like this, you can expect that they might come after you in a way that sabotages your success.
You will want to steer clear of them both because they have seemingly poor character, and also because you don't want to suffer whatever they may throw at you in their attempt to maintain their ego.
9. They Talk Over You
It is annoying and frustrating and a sure sign of immaturity. If someone feels what they have to say is so important that they don't mind talking over you to get their point across to others, then what are they saying about the things you care about?
You will want to steer clear of them both because they have seemingly poor character, and also because you don't want to suffer whatever they may throw at you in their attempt to maintain their ego.
They clearly feel that their words are more important than yours, and that is very hurtful. At a certain point, it is easy to lose compassion for someone who continues to behave so rudely.
10. They Exclusively Wear Brand Name Clothes
You might not think that what someone wears could say much about their internal personality, but that is not the case. When people focus exclusively on wearing brand-name clothes, they are saying that they value how they appear to others more than they care about saving money on less expensive options.
Additionally, they are saying that they want people to stand up and take notice of what they are wearing. Basically, they are not okay with people not noticing their latest looks, and that is yet another attempt to bring the spotlight back on them.
11. They Talk About Celebrities A Lot
Everyone has a celebrity or two that they like to follow. However, it can be a red flag for superficial tendencies when a person talks almost exclusively about celebrities.
There is a certain allure that comes with celebrities that some people just can't help but pine for. But today's celebrities are highly superficial people that are marketed to us as the ideal type of person to be.
It is a sad state of affairs, and it is sad that many people believe that this is how they need to live if they want to be reach and famous. The average person who spends a lot of time talking about celebrities is someone who wishes they were a celebrity themselves, and that may point to someone who is very superficial in their dealings with others.
There are so many warning signs and red flags that the universe tries to throw our way when alerting us of a person’s potentially toxic personality. We just don’t always choose to see them.
Among the worst type of person is the superficial one… perhaps only second to the abusive personality.
If you fear that someone you are dealing with in your own life may be somewhat or entirely superficial, you should know that you are not mistaken for perhaps thinking so.
Give them some time to explain themselves or for you to get to know them better, but never forget that your gut instinct is something that is often correct as well.
Sarah Kristenson
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