All couples have their up's and down's and no Im not talking about bedroom olympics here but rather the inevitable disagreements and frustration that comes with being with someone for a considerable amount of time.....then again there are also those who are perhaps more difficult to get along with from the get go. Oftentimes with the latter case many will cut their losses and flee, others might seek advice and be told, 'Throw that one back, there's plenty of other fish in the sea". 

What they probable won't hear is, "Stay the course".  Maybe that is what's wrong with relationships nowadays; people simply don't want to put in the work without instant gratification of some sort. When the other partner does not fit into a perfect cookie cutter mold of wonderful with a shiny ribbon on top then many feel they have a problem. 

This is when ultimatums and threats come into play. Instead of accepting that some people require patience and understanding and won't just conform to someone else's standards one person will usually inform the other shape up or ship out. There are also some who may 'put' up with undesirable behavior from their partner all the while passive aggressively striking back with poor behavior of their own. 

Wouldn't it be amazing if people were so evolved that they could accept what is, stop responding in negative fashion and feed less energy to the undesirable traits? Now this isnt to say that this fits for all, some people and situations are best avoided and no one should ever accept or put up with abuse. There are also some relationships that will just not stand the test of time and that's okay, it doesn't mean you failed. 

Many people today have had a few if not several failed relationships and there is bound to be baggage and residual left behind. People need to be more understanding with one another and recognize their own personal triggers and what they may be projecting on to new love interests. 

We all have been through tough times but it doesn't always have to be that way.