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A karmic relationship involves irresistible attraction with a tempestuous twist. Not all karmic relationships are toxic though most of them are. They are often intense and short-lived.

If you have not lived through a karmic relationship, all these incongruous aspects will make you wonder, “Why would any sane person want to be in such a relationship?”

From a logical point of view, your thoughts are justified. However, the mysteries of relationships are just that – mysteries. Why you have a relationship with someone and why you do what you do in a relationship is beyond human understanding. It just happens and it is what it is.

A karmic relationship is one such relationship we know very little about but can wreak havoc in the lives of those involved. 

A karmic relationship is explained as the reconnection of souls from previous births. Afterlife or life after death refers to the continued existence of the soul of a person after the death of their physical body. The soul of a person is the identity or consciousness of the person. After death, the soul is believed to get reincarnated in another body. 

The individuals in a karmic relationship must have been in a relationship in their previous births. After death and reincarnation, they come together in the present life to settle the unresolved issues. The resolution of “unfinished business” is what makes karmic relationships turbulent.

Freeing the soul from its karma is an essential step for it to evolve and enrich itself. This is believed to bring in spiritual awakening or enlightenment.

Karmic relationships can be immensely helpful in your spiritual journey and in realizing your potential. This relationship need not always be romantic. You can have a karmic relationship with practically anyone you know – friends, colleagues, parents, siblings, and other family members.

The purpose of a karmic relationship is to pay your karmic debts and get past them to move on in life. When in this relationship, you should be able to learn, grow, and heal from past experiences. 

The concept of karma is related to the cyclical nature of our existence. We live, accumulate some karma, both good and bad, and die without paying all the karmic debts. When we are reborn, the karmic debt is carried over. Unless we manage to pay off this debt, it will continue to hang like a Damocles sword over our heads. 

A karmic relationship is a chance we get to pay off the debt connected to the past relationship.

Like any other relationship, a karmic connection also goes through stages – from your sixth sense telling you that something important is happening to finally managing to shake off the toxic relationship.

Here are the 10 stages of a karmic relationship.

1. Dreams and intuitions

Have you ever sensed what is coming to you? Maybe you dreamed about it. Or just felt it in your bones. Often this is how a karmic relationship begins.

2. Coincidence and synchronicities

Something out of ordinary happens in your life and lo and behold! You find yourself in a relationship! You meet this person quite by chance. When you think about it, it feels as though the Universe was conspiring to bring you two together.

3. The encounter

You may bump into this person in an unusual setting but instead of brushing it off as a casual meeting, you seem compelled to pay attention to the person. It feels as if you have known this person forever and this person has a magical hold over you. 

It is not unusual to feel an instant connection with this person. This person seems to tug at all the right strings in your heart and arouse a whole lot of esoteric feelings. 

4. Feelings and emotions

You can sense a vague feeling of familiarity with the person. This will make you feel at ease in their presence and open up to them more than you normally do with others. You find yourself enjoying their presence. Every moment spent apart seems like ages and your heart longs to see them again.

This person seems to evoke all sorts of sweet and tender feelings in you. Attraction and romance are integral parts of a karmic relationship. It also looks as if the other person is going through the same process as yourself. Soon, you will develop a deep connection with each other.

5. Can’t get enough of it

You are loving this phase. Everything in your world seems perfect. You want more of this and want this to continue forever. You find it hard to focus on anything else in life. You find yourself addicted to this person.

6. Tides turns

From the heights of love, romance, and unadulterated happiness, your life starts slipping away. Drama, chaos, and confusion make an entry unannounced. This is followed by a slew of negative feelings like sadness, anger, and even hate and disgust. 

Even now there are moments when you love and care for each other. Unfortunately, the good times are short-lived. You will begin to sense danger at some point. You no longer feel safe with your karmic partner. You feel unsure of where you stand in the relationship. Your words and actions are often misunderstood and they seem to trigger extreme negative emotions in your partner. 

7. Old patterns return

What started as love at first sight, soon turned into a bumpy ride. Ups and downs, undesirable situations, and negativity slowly yet surely creep in unawares. It looks as if your life, together with your relationship, is going out of control and you have no say in it. 

You may be finding it difficult to explain, but to you, this bad patch seems familiar, as though you have gone through it before. Though you are not aware of it, you are just slipping into the old pattern of your previous life together and repeating the same mistakes.

You find it hard to communicate effectively with your partner. You feel confused and stuck in a rut from which you don’t know how to escape. You are no longer sure who is to blame for all these.

8. Realization and acceptance

This is the moment for you to wake up from your slumber and take matters into your hand. This is the opportunity for you to break free from the set pattern and change the narrative of your life as well as that of your relationship. 

Only by resolving your issues, you can set yourself free from this karmic connection.

9. Growth and progress

You feel at peace though your relationship is going through a bad patch. Reaching this stage is not easy; only the strong-willed manage to cut through the chaos and find the right path ahead. The rest continue to struggle in the relationship, not knowing what to do, even when it is crystal clear that the relationship has no future.

The best way out of this turbulent relationship is through self-care. Learning to practice self-acceptance and self-love and cultivating self-belief, self-worth, and self-confidence can help you navigate through this painful period.

In fact, you don’t have a choice about this. You can do this quickly or you can prolong the agony by dragging the relationship longer. Unless you figure this out, you have no escape from your karmic relationship.

10. Breaking free

Being in a karmic relationship can be emotionally draining. The problems pile up so high that you finally decide to get out. This is not exactly easy to achieve as the bond is very strong, transcending lifetimes.

Acceptance and letting go don’t come easy. However, that is the whole point of a karmic relationship. The earlier you manage to achieve this, the faster you can put the relationship behind you and move on in life. 

You have learned your lessons and you have paid your karmic debt. You are finally free.

Ups and downs are common in all relationships. So, how to identify that you are in a karmic relationship? Here are a few telltale signs of a karmic relationship.

1. Instant connection and a sense of destiny
2. Makes you selfish and addictive
3. You want to control and create dependency
4. You see repeating patterns
5. Makes you irrational and brings out your fears
6. Something feels off and you feel unsafe
7. Triggers your insecurities and exposes your dark side
8. Trouble in communicating your thoughts and feelings
9. You feel drained and display self-sabotaging tendencies
10. Find yourself unable to resolve issues
11. You experience all-consuming emotions like anger and rage
12. The relationship stagnates
13. Turbulent and short-lived
14. Find yourself unable to let it go despite knowing it is unworkable
15. You refuse to give up and continue to search for a way out

How to get out of a karmic relationship?

This cannot be repeated often enough – karmic relationships are hard to get out of or let go of. Only by resolving the relationship issues and realigning your thoughts and actions, you can hope to achieve this.

Here are some steps you can try to make this happen.

1. Cultivating self-acceptance and self-love
2. Forgiving yourself
3. Developing a grateful attitude
4. Improve your communication skills
5. Develop self-respect and confidence
6. Learn to stand by your beliefs and be resolute
7. Try not to be too hard on yourself
8. Set aside some me-time
9. Healing meditation, breathwork, and yoga to gain peace and mental clarity
10. Get close to nature
11. Turn inward and understand yourself
12. Analyze your situation from a third-party perspective
13. Reach out to family and friends for support
14. Make a plan for leaving the relationship
15. Lay the foundation for a life of freedom

Bottom line

It may be hard for you to believe now that beautiful life and healthy relationship are waiting for you once you get out of this toxic relationship, especially when the going is tough. Convince yourself that this is just a phase and short-lived. Your life will bloom again.

Karmic relationships come into our lives for a purpose – to free your soul of the karmic debt and achieve spiritual awakening. When you go through the different phases of a karmic relationship, from euphoria to desperation, and eventually breaking free, your attitude and life as a whole will change in ways you never thought possible. That is your ultimate gift.

When you were drowning in toxicity, you were unaware of the burden you were bearing – of unlearned lessons and unresolved issues from your past life. These and more were creating hurdles for your spiritual awakening. 

Once you have all that behind you, you are all set for peace, nirvana, and a life filled with love and happiness. Let go of the past and embrace the future.

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